Does it really work? Can you date someone with the knowledge that he or she is free to get their freak on with other people whilst still dating you? I don't know about you but i sometimes see most people in open relationships as friends who have a great sex life together but do not want to define what they have in terms of an exclusive real relationship.
Sometimes when i get to sit with my friends and the topic of open relationships come up, the thing is dismissed as a relationship for those who are promiscous, or one for those who want to keep some one special by the side, yet be a whore with every one else. I share their sentiments but not totally because i have been in an open relationship and thier logic isn't correct in all it's wholesomeness. It happened a while ago during those days at Unilag, when he was in Abuja and I in Lagos. Of a truth "Konji" couldn't keep one in a place and we werent the travelling type except once in a year, around the christmas period when he came down to Lagos for the festivities with his family that resided here, so we opted to make our relationship open. I swear i was in love with the guy, but barely after a year later and several hookups in between the thing slowly started to die. Calls became far in between, whatsapp messages began to slur and it eventually came to a fullstop when i broke it off with him via a text message, to which he accepted fate and we both blamed distance. In my own case we put the blame on distance and it seemed most likely the cause. However, there are cases of peopel who live within the same vicinity or even cohabit, yet still sleep with other people. I have heard stories of how those in a relationship even bring boy(s) to service them or be serviced in something more like an orgy. This it seems is a sort of sexual fetish. I have also witnessed a relationship where a marrried couple mantain an open relationship, such that each party is allowed to go out and get down with anyone they please as long as they remain marrried. This was the case of a beautiful family i met during my early days here in Britian, in which the husband and wife had such an intricate policy where the either of them could hook up with any another person outside the marriage, as long as it is once a month. It kept their marriage together and they have been going strong for 13 years now, so i believe it works in some cases. I wonder if such cases of open marriages exist in Nigeria?
So here goes the question, can you give an open relationshp in whatever form a try? Is it a taboo for you? Are there any draw backs to dating other people aside your patner? Let's enlighten ourselves...